I struggle with this as well! One lesson of Jason’s I go back to time and again is his lesson called “Little Lift”. https://fiddlehed.com/courses/beginner-fiddle-lessons/1-2-getting-plucky/little-lift/
The lesson concentrates on accuracy and speed, but I find it wonderful for helping me with a lighter touch.
When I concentrate on “little lift”, my touch becomes much lighter and the notes sound much better. The higher I lift my fingers, the harder I tend to press the strings, and the tension returns.
Hope this helps.
